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Tips to Finding the "One"
Everyone seems to be on a journey to find the "one".
Since this journey can be a hard and winding road, here are some tips to help you out along the way.
1. Don't actively look for them
As much as I know you want to find them ASAP, spending all your time looking for them is going to do more harm than good. Trust me they want to find you too.
They are out there for you; just give it time and most frequently, they seem to appear without you knowing. Enjoy your life and be yourself; that will attract the right person instead of seeming desperate. You will only attract other desperate people.
2. Know your Standards
Know what you are looking for in a significant other. Don't settle!
Having high standards helps weed out possible contenders and also keeps you from becoming desperate and just dating anyone. While you can go on plenty of dates, know your standards when you are on one so you can decide if you want to continue dating them or should call it quits.
Also: knowing what you consider a red flag in a potential partner is helpful.
3. Don't get caught up in mutual common interests
Just because you both like pizza and binge-watching Netflix does not mean you are meant for each other.
While some common interests are important, they are not everything. If you both love opposite interests, that can make the relationship more exciting and makes for more conversation and diversity.
However, it should be important to note that if your potential partner absolutely hates something you love, it probably won't work out.
4. Know Your Values
Your values are important and that is where you and your partner should be on common ground. Not interests.
So your partner isn't a huge Parks and Rec fan, but they value honesty and want a big family, two values you hold? Then who cares about the Parks and Rec part! Common values between two partners is important because it makes you more compatible, leads to less fights, and makes a more harmonious relationship.
While you may not have all of the same values, find the most important ones to you and that's a good place to start. But also hear out your potential partner for their reasons on how they feel a certain way; it may sway you.
5.Get out There!
You'll never find the one for you if you never leave the house.
This doesn't mean go out partying and drinking all the time; but go out and do stuff! Join a gym, or a club, or find a new hobby, or explore around where you live. You're bound to run into people and maybe meet someone you'll like. If anything, you may get new friends from it! (Who may have a cute single friend just for you)
Relax and the one for you will come in good time. :)
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