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Relationship At Your Own Pace
Everyone is always saying when you should do certain things in your relationship. I say, screw it and do it at your own pace!!
If you are a mature adult, I think you can decide when it's the right time for you and your partner to move on to the "next step" in your relationship, so long as you're both ready together.
There shouldn't be a guide as to when they should meet the parents, or when you should say "I love you", or even when you can have sex. In your adult relationship love life, you both decide when that time is right for you and agree upon it together.
Things like getting engaged, getting married, moving in together and having a baby, however, should all be things that happen a bit later in the relationship. This is because all of them depend on a force outside of both of you: money. You need money for a good ring, for everything and anything in a wedding, to get a nice place with some furniture, and most definitely you'll need a lot of money for a baby. No one should ever tell you when the time is right for you to do any of these things because it depends on the money you have/are willing to spend and if you both are ready for these bigger commitments.
Another thing: if people tell you that you shouldn't plan a date or an event with your significant other too far in advance because "what if something happens", consider it. But most of the time, if you feel secure in your relationship, who cares? I asked my boyfriend to a wedding after we had been dating for two months and the wedding wasn't for another six months. And here we are: still together and continuing to plan stuff way in advance because we don't plan on leaving each other. If you plan on sticking around, plan things together and in advance if you'd like!
The main point though is that you shouldn't have to wait to do some smaller things in a relationship if it feels right to you. If you love them, then tell them! You don't need to wait six months for it to be "acceptable"; it's your relationship.
Also, always get a pet together to train for any babies that may come later...
Have a relationship like a mature adult and don't rely on what society deems "acceptable". Make your own happiness.
And as always,
Happy Living!